It was in 2015 when I was at my very first motivational conference, Get Motivated Houston, when I heard Les Brown say, "You will fail your way to success." That conference changed my life. It was the first time I truly began to believe that I could be more than I have always been. Growing up in the legalistic church system of the Pentecostal church, I had never been exposed to "motivational speaking" because it was "ungodly." I grew up to 'Jesus Christ and nothing less than his righteousness.' Needless to say I grew up very sheltered and "green," as they say. Of course, that did not stop me from having a FULL life of fun and sin while claiming to rep the cross. But I digress...

I'm not sure what made me sign up to go to this conference because I was against these kinds of things. Actually, it was probably the fact that I was newly married, failing and unsuccessful in my career (by my standards). November 5, 2015 was literally a life changing day for me. I remember walking out of the George R. Brown Convention Center after hearing the living legend, Les Brown, saying to myself, "I am not the same person that arrived here this morning. People can't see it on the outside but I am not at all the same person I was before that day." 

That day put me on this life long journey of growing and healing. (By the way, I hope it does not shock you that your therapist / coach is a regular human like you). I began to look up every speech of Les Brown's. Before that day I honestly did not know who Les Brown was. But he changed my life. Following Les Brown led me to Tony Robbins and Jim Rohn and Norman Vincent Peele and so on. 

In their own way, all of these great people communicated the message that you will fail your way to success. It always sounded good and I believed it, I think...what does it mean? They would say, "you have to pursue failure." Huh? They would say, "don't be afraid to fail, failure is the only way to success." Mmm...what? I'm like, "Ok I receive it, but how do I do it??"

Guess what? I just recently figured it out and I am sooo mad that I (and you too, probably) have known this all of my life. But I do at least understand why being afraid to fail doesn't make sense. 

This post is already longer than I want my posts to be so, come back tomorrow for part two and I will tell you what it actually means to "fail your way to success," and how I learned it. See you tomorrow!